First ask yourself some questions…
Definition: The term “Sadness/Depression” is used to cover a wide range of feelings. There is a distinction between sadness and depression, as they are not the same thing. Sadness is a very human and important emotion that can happen following an event or a difficult period of time in your life. If it is long lasting and starts impacting other parts of your life (i.e., work, relationships, etc.) this is when depression may be the cause. This tab can be used to help you identify if you may have an issue that could be addressed.
Men and Women experience depression differently:
Women’s depression tends to appear more withdrawn and often looks more like an “inward” expression of sadness. This can include feelings of sadness, worthlessness, and excessive guilt. Women’s depression is more often what we think of with a “traditional” depression. Some women may seek out others to talk to, especially close family or friends, or withdraw altogether.
Men’s depression tends to appear more irritable and often looks more like an “outward” expression of anger. This can include moodiness, a loss of interest in once-pleasurable activities, and difficulty sleeping. Men may also be more likely than women to turn to alcohol or drugs when they are depressed. They may become frustrated, discouraged, and sometimes abusive. Some men throw themselves into their work to avoid talking about their depression with family or friends, or behave recklessly.
Thought Goal: I’m depressed or sad because I think (insert problematic thought here).
I can stop or lessen my depression or sadness by thinking about:
Feeling Goal: I’m depressed or sad because I feel (insert problematic feeling here).
I can stop or lessen my depression or sadness by feeling:
Behavior Goal: I’m depressed or sad because my behavior (insert problematic behavior here).
I can stop or lessen my depression or sadness by:
These goals are only examples; use them as a guide, not an absolute. You know if there is a problem, let now be the time to fix it.
Reaching out for help is never a sign of weakness, but rather one of strength. It may be intimidating, annoying, or frustrating to think about what to do and how to approach overcoming this, but it can be done. You do not have to do it alone. If you cannot reach or maintain all of these goals on your own, contact a peer supporter, medical provider and/or a psychology professional.